Wednesday, January 25, 2012

What People Really Don't Know

This post is going to be a little more personal today. I have been getting a lot of criticism from my friends, people who don't know me, and my old high schools students. They find it hard to believe that someone my age could ever be a good mom and basically they expect me and the others who are pregnant around this age to fail. They post status's about how their life will go on and mine is basically just done. I have received nasty messages from people saying they knew I would end up as a nobody. People assume Christian and I are getting married just because we are having a baby, when the truth is, we got engaged 5 weeks before we even found out we were pregnant. I know I don't have to justify to people about how things happen in my life, It just really bugs me when they have no idea what they are talking about, and then they go and make things public. The sad thing is, some of this criticism came from our closest friends.  Message after message, posts after posts about how OUR "friends" would spread things around as in; it's not Christian's kid, I am having an abortion, giving it up for adoption, oh and my personal favorite. I am not really pregnant, I am just lying to everyone. People I will be 20 when I have my baby. I am not in high school this is OKAY. My mother always said not to care what other people think, but now that I have this little peanut inside of me, and I already protecting him/her. Yes Christian and I are considered college dropouts after our second year. But we chose that. We chose to have full time jobs so we can afford to have a baby, so we can afford things for ourselves as in home. Yes we dropped out of our sorority and fraternity, that's because we had a lot of negative criticism behind the scenes. This doesn't mean we won't go back to college, this doesn't mean we won't have a life, this doesn't mean Christian and I can't have fun. This means, we can go back to school, as well as watching our child go through school, we won't have a life with just Christian and I, we are blessed with someone that we added to our family, sharing our life and making memories with them, Christian and I will have a lot of fun, raising a child. So I guess in the end all of this negativity can keep coming our way. We learn to deal with things different when you are about to become a parent. I know one thing that I am going to strive to be the best mother that I can be. Just because I am young, doesn't mean I can't do what a 25 -30 yr old mother can do. I can love this child just as much. Everyone is a first time mother, may you be 16, 20, or 35. It's all the same. You are having a child and you have to figure out the best way to raise a child. That's all that matters in the end. Yes, I realize I may lose friends, I already have. A lot. But again, you do what is best for you and your baby. I was the girl who always went out, I was careless. I wanted to be young and free. I guess I needed an eye opener, and that's just what I got. My life isn't over, it's just going another route. I wanted this route when I was 25 or older, but you can say better now than ever. Something always happens for a reason, and I have to keep telling myself that. I'm not saying having a baby is horrible and I am so angry. No. I am so very excited. It's all I think about 24/7. To hold them, and play with them and raise a child into something better than what I was. To see God's creation, our creation, our new life.  So I guess people will keep posting stuff until they understand what it's like. So I am not angry with these people, they just simply don't understand, and I don't expect them to until they become a parent.


  1. This is very touching. I don't understand why people find it a need to be in other people's business. Thank you for posting this and good luck through out your pregnancy.

    - April

  2. You will be mom! I love your page!
    Check out mine sometime